My Linkedin Articles

Maxine Harley

In addition to the articles and blog posts you will find below, I have also published others on the LINKEDIN platform – and here is the link to that page 




Titles include:-

  • Are Your Parents Messing Up Your Business?
  • The Threat To Mental Health That Self-emplyoment Brings
  • Therapeutic Mentoring – the new alchemy
  • Playground Bullies In The Workplace
  • Winners Losers & Also-rans
  • Competition & Comparison
  • Working Parents – guilt and resentment
  • The Toxic Workplace & Boss
  • Allow Your Business To Thrive – by getting out of its way!
  • What A Car Boot Sale Taught Me About Business
  • New Challenges Old Fears


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How Attached Are You To Your Work?

How does your attachment style affect your success at work?

To answer that we need to start at the foundation level.

Our early experiences of trauma, whether physical or emotional, affect the way our brains become wired up. Particularly so when the trauma is repeated and recurring (as in the case of a troubled childhood with toxic parents; or repeated physical illness, assault or medical interventions and operations).

Our ‘Adverse Childhood Experiences’ (or A.C.E. Studies – carried out in the late 1990s and subsequently) are also a reliable indicator of how successful we will be in life – a significant part of which is our working life and the financial rewards we’ll get in exchange for our time and energy.

Our past can also determine our style of ’emotional attachment’ to significant aspects of our lives.

This attachment style in turn shapes how we see the world, our self-concept, our ability to form and maintain relationships, our comfort or discomfort with intimacy, the way we parent our children, and our success in our working career or business (particularly our relationships with colleagues, staff and line managers). Continue reading

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Looking On The Bright Side

No matter what life throws at you, the challenges you face, and the effort needed to get through it all… there’s always room for optimism. In fact it’s essential!

It can be hard to see the silver lining when the clouds are thick and dark, but the silver glow is still there. You just might not be looking at it from the best angle to clearly see and appreciate it.

The good news is that optimism can be learnt with intention and practice… and the proverbial glass can be seen as half full.

Admittedly that’s harder to do if you’re feeling depressed or overwhelmed, but all it takes is an open mind and a shift in thinking. Only you can do that for yourself. Continue reading

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Does Tomorrow Ever Come?

Have you ever procrastinated, and put off until tomorrow (or later) something that could or should be done today? Sometimes it pays to wait, but not always!

Why do we procrastinate?

There are several reasons, such as:

  •  Self-doubt – ‘Will I do it well enough? I’ll probably fail or make a mess of it anyway so I’ll leave it and see what happens instead.’
  •  Fear – of the shame of failure if it’s not done ‘properly’, or of making things worse.
Fear of being judged on what you’ve done and maybe being ridiculed or even rejected.
Fear of success – ‘What if I do a really good job? What will then be expected of me after that?’
  • Overwhelm – ‘I just don’t have time to do this today – maybe I’ll have more time for it another day.’Perfectionism – ‘It might not be perfect right now, so I’d better wait until I’m completely ready to do a perfect job of it.’
  • Laziness – ‘I just can’t be bothered – if I leave it someone else will do it instead.’Ego and narcissism – ‘It’s beneath me…I shouldn’t have to do this’; or ‘I’m in charge and I’ll do it when I’m good and ready.
  • Learned behaviour – ‘That’s just what we all do in my family, and it doesn’t matter.’

How do we manage procrastination? Continue reading

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Our Limits & Boundaries

 These are similar and yet different.

In a personal and individual way we’re all ‘limited’ in our self-concept, abilities and behaviour. These personal limits can be changed with self-awareness, intention and repetition.

Our boundaries are the limits we set by choice rather than from old habits or conditioning.

We can set new boundaries with ourselves – (e.g. our time management, eating habits, lifestyle and relationships), as well as creating boundaries with others to clarify how we want and expect to be treated by them. Continue reading

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Throttle Stress Before It Throttles You!

 We have a ‘Stress Awareness Day’ each year on 5th November…

so let’s remind ourselves why we need to keep stress under control, and not allow it to disrupt our health, our family and our life.

A bit of stress is a good thing – it motivates us to get things done – but too much is harmful to the mind and body. Continue reading

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Are You Ready To Step Outside Your Comfort Zone?

 Why would you want to?

After all it’s not called ‘comfort’ for nothing. Why risk discomfort by choice?

Well, the answer lies in your interest and willingness to explore new aspects of your personality and your potential. Continue reading

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What Motivates You?

Motivation is defined as ‘To provide someone with a reason for doing something’. (Longman Dictionary)

 Have you noticed that you need a different sort of motivation for different things?  

If we can’t rely upon self-motivation we can pay a life coach to give us the proverbial kick up the backside – but there’s no guarantee that external sources will make any tangible difference to us.  Continue reading

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Is It Time You Were More Assertive?

 Perhaps like many people you think that assertiveness means being stroppy, aggressive, awkward or bossy.  

 If you’re a withdrawn or shy person, and too accommodating to other people’s needs, then the thought of being more visible and vocal might feel strange and even frightening to you. 

 Assertiveness is not about being aggressive or passive. 

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How To Build Mental Grit – The importance of resilience and self-reliance

 In 2012 I wrote a different article about this subject which still attracts lots of interest – both online and via one of my books – showing me that the matter of resilience continues to intrigue a wide range of people from a broad range of professions.

The most important thing to remember is that not everyone is built of the same stuff when it comes to being able to create the necessary internal psychological structures – or mental ‘grit’ – to support themselves in times of great challenge, adversity and distress. Continue reading

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